Okay, a 2nd diary posting for me!  Woo hoo!

In the comments of my previous diary entry about me possibly reentering the workforce, someone said that I should be sure to :negotiate major participation from DH in the family/child/home care areas. Major participation--like 50-50 if possible."

In theory, I think that's great, but in practice, it can be hard to achieve.  I'm just wondering where everyone else is at with it?  (More on me after the jump.)

I think this is my first diary--I'm a lurker, but this didn't feel safe to talk about with my real life friends.  Ah, the anonymity of the internets!

I've been a SAHM since my oldest child was born almost 7 years ago.  I got into it almost accidentally; my dh liked his work, and I didn't.  I also realized (almost to my surprise) after my oldest was born that I just couldn't bear to leave him.  So I didn't, and fortunately, it worked out.

Fast forward to now.  I have 3 kids.  My dh and I faced some martial rockiness, including a short separation earlier this year (thankfully, he's dealing with his problems--yes, they are his problems, won't go into it here, but 12 step stuff and major therapy).  He was also out of work for several months, during which we were both looking for jobs.

Fortunately, we are really working hard on our marriage, and he got a great job with a major increase in pay, title, and responsibilities.  But then last week, I heard back from a place I applied in January, and I am a candidate for the job.  And it is one I really want.